Creating my New Year’s resolutions for weight loss used to look something like this: I would find myself in front of a scale with a long list of reasons why I needed to punish myself with restrictive diets and excessive exercise. I would spend weeks and sometimes months beating myself up about my weight, my worth and my life as an undesirable woman.
These destructive practices were proof that I had allowed my weight to control me. I surrendered control over my mind, my heart and large portions of my soul to my obsession with my body and weight.
The desperation surrounding my weight and the power that I gave this number on the scale revealed a spiritual sickness that I had allowed to overtake me. I would often deal with bouts of depression that would drive me to emotional eating and gaining even more weight.
The extra weight I carried was not only physically weighing me down but spiritually weighing on my soul. This constant repetition of untruths about my value as a woman weighed heavy on my heart.
I knew that God had called me to live a life filled with freedom but I was living as a slave to my disordered eating and obsession with my weight. The bible speaks about how destructive this sort of idolatry is for the mind, body and soul and even refers to it as slavery:
Galatians 5:1 states that “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” (NIV)
I wanted freedom so I stopped weighing myself about five years ago. I knew that I needed to remove the scale from my life, the scale was a sort of altar at which I would surrender my worth in exchange for a number that would determine how I would dress and interact with the world.
When I stopped using a scale I learned exactly how much of my life I had not lived because of the numbers that I obsessed over. There was nothing different about the depth of God’s love for me or my inherent value as a person that changed after I stepped on the scale and my weight was revealed.
Once I decided it was time to let go of this obsession and surrender it to God, positive changes in my life began to take place. Within a few weeks I began to feel like the woman I had beat up and buried deep down inside was beginning to emerge. The compulsions around food and emotional eating began to become less and less a part of my life as I learned to let go.
I meditated on this verse and began to have faith that God would teach me his unforced rhythms of grace:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)
Laying down the obsessions with your weight and trusting in the Lord to help heal your relationship with food sounds counter intuitive when we have been programmed by our society that we should not trust our bodies and look to the latest diet pills fad diet. Focus on enjoying the body that you have and learning to nourish yourself with healthy foods, pleasurable movement and healthy relationships.
God programmed your body to know exactly what you need to eat, you may have forgotten how to listen.
Every person has unique dietary needs, and you don’t need to sift through diet books and weight loss programs in order to find the perfect diet for you. Your body will speak to you, but you must first quiet your mind and listen.
I’m excited to announce that I will be opening up enrollment for my newest program “Clean Up Your Diet” on Sunday, January 5th, 2014 at 11AM CST and will close on January 10th at 9PM CST.
This program is all about learning how to eat by learning how to listen to your body, discovering new ways of nourishing yourself and finding freedom from the trap of dieting and super-intense exercise regimes.
Learn more about “Clean Up Your Diet”
One of the number one issues my clients struggle with is the constant fight with their bodies in order to keep their weight in check. The secret to getting off the roller coaster is transforming your mindset and creating a healthy lifestyle that is so fabulous you’ll wonder why you ever bothered with diets.
I would like to share with you the GOLDEN principles that I teach to my VIP clients. These principles are a starting point for you to explore a new way of living. If you follow these principles you’ll find your life improving and your body becoming healthier with each passing day.
It’s time to shift your perspective from one that is limiting to one that is limitless!
Vivacious Nutrition Golden Principles
- You’ve got to ROCK what your mama gave you.
Your body is a beautiful! Say it loud and proud. You’ve got to believe this with every cell of your body. Wake up everyday and list all of the things you LOVE about this amazing body of yours that carries you through your fabulous life. Dress your body in clothes that make your feel like really living. You can’t wait on the weight to life your life to the fullest. Love yourself, right now!
- Infuse your everyday routine with pleasure and unapologetic self-care.
There is a divine relationship between your mind and body. Your mind is the husband and your body is the wife in this relationship. I want you to look back at how you have belittled and neglected your body in the past. Your mind has acted like an abusive husband toward your body. It’s not hard to understand why your body has been craving comfort foods and you have struggled with emotional eating. Only you have the power to change the behavior of your mind (husband) in this relationship so it’s time to take responsibility and begin to pour love into your relationship with your body. Treat your body with all the care and love, create a beautiful marriage between your body and mind.
- Take the time to really listen to your body.
Once you develop this skill, you’ll be working with your body to achieve your goals instead of fighting against it. If you master this skill you’ll find yourself naturally achieving your healthiest weight. This principle is especially important during mealtimes. It is super important that you take time to really listen to your body and what it needs. Your body is like a beautiful garden that needs love, attention and a gardener that understands the nutritional needs of the soil. If you take the time to listen, I promise that your food will taste better and you’ll feel more satisfied with less food.
In the comments section below I want you to tell me which golden principle you are going to start using right now. If you enjoyed this article then please share with your peeps on Twitter and Facebook.
Viva la revolución!
Do you remember your first time taking a bite into your favorite dessert?
I’ve been up and down on what is known as the dieting roller coaster. I spent 10 years on this roller coaster; in six months I would lose 30-60 pounds and the within a year I would be back to my original weight or heavier. I am extremely aware of what happens when you start a new diet and begin to adopt the rules of the latest dieting craze. You give up your favorite foods in order to FINALLY lose the weight, but sooner or later you fall off the wagon and give in to all those “forbidden” foods.
I’m going to tell you a secret that I share with my VIP health coaching clients: It is important that you give yourself permission to enjoy the foods that you have deprived yourself in the past.
I know you’re probably thinking: “This woman has lost her mind”. You may think that I’m giving you permission to go on a lovely guilt-free binge. However, the explanation for this almost counter intuitive secret is simple.
Allow me to illustrate why you need to stop your love-hate relationship with food.
If I told you not to think of an elephant, you would find yourself thinking of an elephant.
This is a simple example of ironic process theory.
The same principle applies when dealing with food cravings: If you tell yourself that you cannot have ice cream and you proceed to deprive yourself of this treat that you adore, then eventually you will find yourself indulging in this “forbidden” food and most likely eating a few extra servings too. If you try to suppress the thoughts of your favorite foods that you have deemed “bad” in an attempt to stop eating them, you will most likely find yourself thinking of these foods more often. You may even begin to obsess about this very food you are trying to avoid.
This cycle of deprivation and binging is not conducive to lifelong health.
We have to stop the deprivation and psychological stress caused by dieting. We can start by conditioning our minds and bodies with the idea that our favorite foods are not off limits and we can actually have them anytime we desire.
You can and should enjoy these foods without the guilt trip that dieting has imprinted into your psyche.
In my work with clients who have been on the dieting roller coaster, we take the opportunity to explore what foods give them a guilty feeling and re-introducing them into their diet.
Want to eat your favorite foods again without guilt?
I challenge you to take one food that has been on your longtime “guilty pleasures” list and get reacquainted with this food. Here is a fun exercise to help you begin the process of reconditioning your mind.
Your First Time
- Go out and buy the most decadent version of your favorite treat.
- This step is very important: REMOVE ALL DISTRACTIONS!
- Take your time introducing yourself to this food. Savor each bite.
In the comments below I want you to tell me one food that you are going to get reaquainted with and how you’re going to make it an event so you can savor each bite. If you enjoyed this article then please share with your peeps on Twitter and Facebook.
Viva la revolución!