Deciding to make changes in your life can be overwhelming, especially when we’re talking about weight loss and getting fit. It can be a stretch to wrap your head around all of the things that you think you “should be doing” and the things you “know you should do” to lose weight and finally get the body of your dreams.
There is a whole world of difference between knowing what you need to do and actually doing it. The bridge between these two worlds looks different for each person and coaching is one way to get out of your head and start doing the things that are going to bring you the health, happiness and self-confidence that you desire.
I know first-hand how overwhelming it can be to create long-term goals and short-term goals and create lists of all the things that I need to accomplish…. and then feel as if I am swimming in a sea of despair because I don’t even know where to start.
So we quit before we even begin.
How To Beat Overwhelm
I challenge my clients to take on one action each day that is going to begin building your confidence and your new habits into your daily routine. You may find that some days you’ll do more than one thing.
I want to challenge you to think about your health and wellness in terms of dreams instead of goals. Imagine how you will feel when you are living your dream.
Doing one thing each day to work toward your dream will help you feel like you’re living your dream today.
Here’s how you can get started turning your health and fitness dreams into reality today.
- Turn up the feel good tunes, light a scented candle and get in touch with how you want to feel in your body.
- Close your eyes and imagine what your dream body feels and looks like.
- Write down this “vision” and include as much detail as possible. Infuse it with all the emotional and “intangible” feelings.
- Ask yourself: “What small steps start taking now to begin feeling healthy and fit?”
- Start making plans around these small steps choosing one to accomplish each day. Note: If a fear of failure comes up and threatens to keep you from accomplishing your goal for the day, it’s okay to pick something more manageable. All movement forward counts!
- Get support: This is where a coach or accountability partner comes in. It can be the difference between you sticking with your positive life changes or quitting prematurely.
Clarity and Taking Action
If you’re thinking about losing 20 pounds or 100, don’t get paralyzed by overwhelm or the fear of failure. Remember that you need to gain some clarity around your dream body and life.
“Clarity comes from action, not thought.” – Marie Forleo
Once you’ve started taking one small step each day for a a few months, revisit your dream body visualization and see if it’s changed. Taking action will help you get clear on the practices, foods, exercise and self-care activities you really want to bring into your life. There are no rules here, you build the body and life of your dreams on your terms!
In the comments below I want you to take action and answer this question:
What is one action that you can take today to begin moving toward your dream body and life?
Creating my New Year’s resolutions for weight loss used to look something like this: I would find myself in front of a scale with a long list of reasons why I needed to punish myself with restrictive diets and excessive exercise. I would spend weeks and sometimes months beating myself up about my weight, my worth and my life as an undesirable woman.
These destructive practices were proof that I had allowed my weight to control me. I surrendered control over my mind, my heart and large portions of my soul to my obsession with my body and weight.
The desperation surrounding my weight and the power that I gave this number on the scale revealed a spiritual sickness that I had allowed to overtake me. I would often deal with bouts of depression that would drive me to emotional eating and gaining even more weight.
The extra weight I carried was not only physically weighing me down but spiritually weighing on my soul. This constant repetition of untruths about my value as a woman weighed heavy on my heart.
I knew that God had called me to live a life filled with freedom but I was living as a slave to my disordered eating and obsession with my weight. The bible speaks about how destructive this sort of idolatry is for the mind, body and soul and even refers to it as slavery:
Galatians 5:1 states that “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” (NIV)
I wanted freedom so I stopped weighing myself about five years ago. I knew that I needed to remove the scale from my life, the scale was a sort of altar at which I would surrender my worth in exchange for a number that would determine how I would dress and interact with the world.
When I stopped using a scale I learned exactly how much of my life I had not lived because of the numbers that I obsessed over. There was nothing different about the depth of God’s love for me or my inherent value as a person that changed after I stepped on the scale and my weight was revealed.
Once I decided it was time to let go of this obsession and surrender it to God, positive changes in my life began to take place. Within a few weeks I began to feel like the woman I had beat up and buried deep down inside was beginning to emerge. The compulsions around food and emotional eating began to become less and less a part of my life as I learned to let go.
I meditated on this verse and began to have faith that God would teach me his unforced rhythms of grace:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)
Laying down the obsessions with your weight and trusting in the Lord to help heal your relationship with food sounds counter intuitive when we have been programmed by our society that we should not trust our bodies and look to the latest diet pills fad diet. Focus on enjoying the body that you have and learning to nourish yourself with healthy foods, pleasurable movement and healthy relationships.
God programmed your body to know exactly what you need to eat, you may have forgotten how to listen.
Every person has unique dietary needs, and you don’t need to sift through diet books and weight loss programs in order to find the perfect diet for you. Your body will speak to you, but you must first quiet your mind and listen.
One of the number one issues my clients struggle with is the constant fight with their bodies in order to keep their weight in check. The secret to getting off the roller coaster is transforming your mindset and creating a healthy lifestyle that is so fabulous you’ll wonder why you ever bothered with diets.
I would like to share with you the GOLDEN principles that I teach to my VIP clients. These principles are a starting point for you to explore a new way of living. If you follow these principles you’ll find your life improving and your body becoming healthier with each passing day.
It’s time to shift your perspective from one that is limiting to one that is limitless!
Vivacious Nutrition Golden Principles
- You’ve got to ROCK what your mama gave you.
Your body is a beautiful! Say it loud and proud. You’ve got to believe this with every cell of your body. Wake up everyday and list all of the things you LOVE about this amazing body of yours that carries you through your fabulous life. Dress your body in clothes that make your feel like really living. You can’t wait on the weight to life your life to the fullest. Love yourself, right now!
- Infuse your everyday routine with pleasure and unapologetic self-care.
There is a divine relationship between your mind and body. Your mind is the husband and your body is the wife in this relationship. I want you to look back at how you have belittled and neglected your body in the past. Your mind has acted like an abusive husband toward your body. It’s not hard to understand why your body has been craving comfort foods and you have struggled with emotional eating. Only you have the power to change the behavior of your mind (husband) in this relationship so it’s time to take responsibility and begin to pour love into your relationship with your body. Treat your body with all the care and love, create a beautiful marriage between your body and mind.
- Take the time to really listen to your body.
Once you develop this skill, you’ll be working with your body to achieve your goals instead of fighting against it. If you master this skill you’ll find yourself naturally achieving your healthiest weight. This principle is especially important during mealtimes. It is super important that you take time to really listen to your body and what it needs. Your body is like a beautiful garden that needs love, attention and a gardener that understands the nutritional needs of the soil. If you take the time to listen, I promise that your food will taste better and you’ll feel more satisfied with less food.
In the comments section below I want you to tell me which golden principle you are going to start using right now. If you enjoyed this article then please share with your peeps on Twitter and Facebook.
Viva la revolución!